I compiled this book because of the inspiration I have had, throughout my life, from the words of others, but in such words I have also found solace in suffering. My parents died within two weeks of each other, Dad first. Mum said, ‘He always goes on ahead to make sure everything is OK.’ They had an adventurous life and both died of old age but the shock, although expected, was not something I was prepared for. I found solace in these lines from the Bhaghavad Gita – the Divine Song:
As Sure as Death for the Born
So Sure is Birth for the Dead
Like Joy, Like Grief,
All Things Shall Pass.
And of this I thought, what is a song but a quotation to music?
‘Often someone else’s words can provoke us to memories both painful and sweet, and remind us of things we should have learned, but sometimes forget.’ –Mary Morrell
‘A good quote is a beautiful bird! Wherever you meet with it, you will start flying with it!’ –Mehmet Murat Ildan
‘A quotation in a speech, article or book is like a rifle in the hands of an infantryman. It speaks with authority.’ –Brendan Behan
‘A fine quotation is a diamond in the hand of a man of wit and a pebble in the hand of a fool.’ –Joseph Roux
[A] quotation is a handy thing to have about, saving one the trouble of thinking for oneself, always a laborious business.’ –A.A. Milne
‘Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.’ –Oscar Wilde
‘God made life simple. It is man who complicates it.’ –Charles Lindbergh
Which of these was the winner for you? Which is the one you remember right now? And you: what is your all-time favorite quote? And if you were asked to give a quote about you, what would you say?
Conflicts can help us rather than block us. We tend to see things in terms of right and wrong, but at some deep level everything is perfect and it’s how we respond to situations that make life more or less harmonious.
Think of an internal conflict you want to resolve. Let’s say, for example – and this is just an example: you can easily adapt the technique to different situations: here is a scenario of inner conflict described by many of my clients. ‘I want to keep my room tidy but I’m too busy before I go out and too tired when I get home. But because my room is so untidy it takes me ages to find things.’
It might not be a room – could be an office! Many years ago I took an assignment in a commercial real-estate agent’s busy office. I observed that they spent a total of seven hours every week looking for bits of paper: important bits of paper, such as leases, court documents, contracts, management instructions.
They weren’t aware of the time as a block: equal almost to one full working day, because their searches, by the partners, the secretaries and the runners, were ten minutes here, half an hour there. On top of the time lost was the impatience, leading to frustration, leading to anger with each other and themselves. And this seeped into the office atmosphere making visiting clients feel uncomfortable. They could see they had a problem but thought themselves too busy to resolve it.
It was when I pointed out the financial implications (time lost = deals lost) that they took the time to overhaul the filing system. Time saved to seek new clients and close more deals, plus happier staff = higher productivity, higher profit!
The similarity between those two situations was that the individual and office clients both employed an outsider – me – to look at their problem and put forward a solution. I want to share with you one way to reach that solution on your own.
Next: R is for Role Models!
Or Get It All Now, the full version, Quotes, Pictures, Applications and Affirmations: ‘A Winners Alphabet‘ An A thru Z of Inspiration on How to Get what you Want. © Kris Deva North 2017
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